Why We Wait For The Other Shoe To Drop? – Podcast Eps 12

Why is it so hard to enjoy the good without bracing for the bad?

In this episode, we unpack how past trauma wires us to expect disruption.

If you’ve ever struggled to relax when things are going well…
If you find yourself bracing for the worst, even when nothing’s wrong…
If you’ve wondered why peace feels unfamiliar instead of safe—

This episode is for you.

4:15 – Dani talks about her PTSD diagnosis, what she has learned along the way, and her blog “Waiting For The Other Shoe To Drop”
6:17 – Heidi shares her thoughts about Dani’s Blog, “Waiting For the Other Shoe To Drop” – How she related and found the piece to be validating
15:50 – The Science Behind Trauma – The Who, The Why, and The What?
• 16:40 – The Who? Who fears the unknown?
• 20:05 – The Why? Why do we wait for the other shoe to drop?
• 26:06 – The What? What does trauma do to the brain’s functioning?
31:30 – Gentle Trauma Work – How to work through the automatic thoughts? How to deal with waiting for the other shoe to drop or the boogey man to appear?
• 32:07 – Work on the acceptance that the automatic thought is now a part of who we are
• 32:27 – Use journaling or keep a log to see when this automatic thought occurs
• 33:00 – Dani shares a personal story about what would happen when she would get triggered and how she dealt with it
• 37:20 – Reframes and taking action – What happens when we use reframes and take action?
40:17 Books & Articles
• Dr. Elaine N. Aron – The Highly Sensitive Person
• Trauma Informed Care & Behavioral Health Services – www.clevelandclinic.org
• PTSD Symptoms & Treatment – www.clevelandclinic.org
43:30 PSA – Low Cost Therapy or No Insurance Option
• Antioch University Counseling Center – Culver City
o (310) 574 – 2813
o https://www.antioch.edu/centers-institutes/aula-counseling-center/services-fees-appointments/